tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-850207704095929443.post7826765661546522706..comments2018-07-25T23:53:28.060-07:00Comments on Becoming Midwives: Grandmother's at BirthKatyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00231025385144765287noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-850207704095929443.post-19438932832162115292011-12-14T12:39:51.756-08:002011-12-14T12:39:51.756-08:00For Shame not allowing unruly grandmothers at a bi...For Shame not allowing unruly grandmothers at a birth?! Why you allow a distrustful father, or bratty kid at a birth but somehow justify your lack of handling of a grandmother there as well. When a father turns stupid, do you ban him from the birth or work with it and fix it? And what about that kid? I assume you teach the children in the house how to be supportive as well during the process. Right and so should it go for a grandmother. She is part of the family too. To suggest that you should simply exclude ANY member of the family based on their feelings of protection is just a way out for you not being fully in control of the birth process and bringing your good sense and management skills to the table. Unless a birthing mother specifically said "I don't want my mother there" you should support it either way without prejudice. Period. I've seen midwives discouraging women from including their mothers based on their own fears that they can not manage the situation and not from the perspective of what is optimally the best situation for the entire family and the support of the woman doing the birthing. These midwives would suggest and even encourage a woman to have a birth with other children present and a partner that is not fully supportive but discourage a grandmother that can be easily flipped to be the most supportive person in the room. This is not doing a service to the mother.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com